On Living Intentionally

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The past few weeks have been pretty rough and tough with the news of the passing of two people who were dear to us. Both of them passed away under different circumstances and in different countries. We hadn't seen Pastor Oyebami in over two years and our relationship had been confined to facebook messaging and a few telephone calls. Yet this hurt deeply as we remembered his impact and life of selflessness and impact. Everyone who knew him could testify to his selfless giving and love not tainted by unneccessary tribalism and religious bigotry. Yemi on the other hand, hit close to home as she was a dear friend of my husband who had turned a family friend. She was a cheerful, happy and  real person. She was a kind hearted and helpful woman. I remember my husband being on the phone with her and laughing so hard, then he gets off the phone and relays what she said and I join in the laughter. She had a sort of beautiful unintentional sense of humor. We saw her on her sick bed and she still managed to laugh. Her impact in my life was subtle, short-lived but fufilling.

The experiences of the past few weeks have just reminded me on the brevity of life as we know it. Either you live up to 120 years or you pass on way before then, life is finite. What I find most important is the idea of living life like it has an end, and for those who share my believe that there's life after death, it's even more important. The reality of life being finite should encourage us to live it out intentionally. by that I mean, live life to it's fullest - get that education you want, travel to that beautiful destination you've been dreaming about, buy that car you have been saving up for, just enjoy the time you have on this side. Most imporantly in my opinion, love your God and express it by loving the people around you passionately.

Have a beautiful weekend.

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