My Iranian friend usually makes the mistake of referring to a male as 'she' and vice-versa. As usual, she offers an apology (which I do not consider necessary) and corrects her mistake. She had shared with me in the past that the Persian language had no gender designation and it got me thinking about the Yoruba language as well. As we sat down over coffee yesterday with our Chinese and Indian friends, I realised how related my local Nigerian language was to theirs. One thing stood out for us - none of our local languages had any gender differentiation. 'He' or 'She' didn't exist in our languages, rather we had words to differentiate between an older person and a younger person as a sign of respect - a trait completely absent in the English language. The French language is even more complicated and interesting on the gender qualification as even things needed to be qualified as female or male. We realised that languages had their different idiosyncrasie...
The past weeks have been quite busy for me. From summer parties to workshops, to lab work to deadlines etc. In the midst of all these activities, I have had sweet conversations, some of which I would be sharing with you as soon as I pen them down. I would start with the most recent interesting talk I had with a friend. It seemed like the season of internships in her office and they had a total of five new interns for the summer. She was saddled with the responsibility of mentoring three of them directly and she totally enjoyed it. As she went on with her conversation about the interns at her workplace, the conversation soon focused on the attitude of the different interns to work. She complained about one of the girls who was so sweet, respectful and loving but who might end up not learning anything - her reason was simple. Homegirl was too busy running errands and cleaning up after others that she almost had no time to do quality work. This story reminded me of my days as an i...
Post by Dinah Ekundayo Holy Matrimony Let's talk about cheating and the Nigerian woman. Dear Nigerian woman, I have always known there was something off about the way most of you were raised, I use "you" because I think that my parents did their own individual bit to raise me above the norm. Infidelity is a no, no, no in marriage it can be forgiven if it happens once but shouldn't be taken as a norm or the right of the Nigerian men to cheat with impunity. The Nigerian woman should not also be made to carry this cross in marriage without questioning or demanding better. The Nigerian woman is raised to be quiet and endure while I was raised to speak up, ask questions, and demand answers. This, of course, didn't sit exactly well with my disciplinarian mum and earned me lots of beatings as she never could understand why I should question her punishing me when it was my younger brothers who were at fault, or why I should demand answers for being as...